Tonight we take the bus 8hrs to Kita-Kyushuu city, to stay at my obaachan's. She doesn't have internet so I think I'll be cut-off from the online world for awhile. Not sure how soon we can get it up in Oman but it's definitely going to be a priority.
We just found out today that the company who hired Oliver is only paying for *his* flights to Salalah. We have to pay for my flights ourselves, which we can't currently even afford. Also, I have to enter on a tourist visa and they'll process the family visa once I'm in the country, which means I have to buy a roundtrip flight 'cos I can't enter on a one-way without the proper visa already issued. For some reason, they can't pay for my flight and then deduct it from Oli's salary, but they said they can loan him the money to pay for my flights once he's in the country. I called my mother to ask if she could loan us the money for the flights until *they* loan us the money and we pay her back with the company loan.
This presents us with several options:
Option #1- My mom pays for my flight on the same day as Oli and we go together, me on a tourist-visa to be later changed into a spouse-visa. We pay her back when the company gives us a loan, the week after we arrive.
Option #2- Oli goes alone, I stay an extra week at my obaachan's until the company loans Oli the money for my flight. I enter on a tourist-visa to be later changed to spouse-visa.
Option #3- Oli goes alone. I go to Canada (my mom's idea) which my mom pays for as a gift. I stay with my parents until the spouse-visa is issued (company said 3 weeks). We use the company loan to pay for my flight from Canada-Oman.
Option #3a, lol -Oli goes alone. I go to Canada for ONE week and we use the company loan to pay for my flight to Oman.
I hate last-minute deciding. There are pros and cons in all these options. I don't want Oli to go by himself, and have the hassle of finding an apartment for us and setting up life there all alone. I definitely don't like the idea of spending 3 weeks apart from him, especially seeing as how we just got married. I think the most time we've spent apart in the last 2 years was like.. 3 days. And it sucked.
But... when my mom said she wanted to pay for me to come to Canada, my heart leapt a little. I would *love* to visit. Yes, it's probably freezing there right now.. and I will be stuck in Niagara-on-the-Lake at my parent's house, probably sleeping on the pull-out couch. And I would miss Oli to bits and feel super guilty that I'm being taken care of and fed by my parents while he's fending for himself in Oman. ..arg.
I'm thinking that we'll probably end up doing option #1. Although I really want to visit Canada, I'd rather go when Oli can go. And I really *would* feel rotten sending him by himself. This is a tough decision though. I have until tomorrow morning to figure it out.
And now, randomly...
( my Halloween costume! )
anxious